I don't normally go to bed by writing a list of self-affirming statements, but last night I did just that ((see my May 29, 2012 post "Affirming Well-Being" to read what I wrote last night before falling asleep (hint: it's the post before this post)).
I don`t think it's "all in my mind:" I actually feel much more self-assured today. I even walked by the mirror and saw how my eyes so nicely matched the shirt I was wearing. I said "wow, you're one good-looking woman!"
I was thinking about it yesterday, about how unnatural it seems to me that I would think of myself as anything but beautiful. Some people blame it on Mattel's Barbie- I don't believe that. We definitely get into patterns of belief about ourselves, and how many people on our planet actually LOVE the way they look on the outside, the way they feel on the inside, or the way they think and act? I have a feeling that it was not only me last night who was needing a boost of self-love.
So what gives? Should we figure out who to blame next: TV or our parents' generation? Should we continue to blame ourselves to no avail? And if we are about to take ownership for our self-image, then what are we going to do about it?
I'm not a huge proponent of reading self-affirmations over and over. It's said to work, but I just don't trust that if you read something that isn't true to you, it will become true to you if you keep doing it over and over. I do believe on the other hand that if you're going to sit down and make a list of the reasons you love your life, staying on the positive side, and recognizing your accomplishments, you're going to love yourself a little more than you did before you started writing. And then a little more, and a little more after that.
They say (who are they? I don't know, but someone says it) that belief is a powerful thing. I think that sounds about accurate. It's hard to believe that we're superstar-beautiful. It's a little easier to believe that we're making progress in all areas of our lives; one area being self-image.